NLP notes part 2
There are 2 types of motivation, away from problems and towards things or goals we want.
People have a tendency to only follow one, but that does not work well.
Away from problems has 3 things to watch;
You move away from something because there is discomfort but the further from it you get , the less motivation you keep, so you go back and forth, hot and cold, it is inconsistent.
Because you are going away from something you often do not pay attention to where you are going or how you will end up. Out of the frying pan into the fire.
Away from people often experience a lot of worry and stress to make a move, usually a lot more than needed or is healthy.
People are always trying to make the best choices available to them and behind every behavior is a positive intention.
Check people and watch them, do they seek goals or are they avoiding problems?
Always end comments positive - start with what to avoid, and end with the goal.;
First state what you don’t want, then state what you do want.
Values matter. What we value determines what life means to us, what actions we will take, what we will move toward or away from.
When people become disconnected from their values their motivation.
What are my goals?
What is important to me?
What is important about this goal?
What do I value or treasure about this goal?
What meaning does this goal have for me?
Values measure the meaning life holds for us.
Values influence motivation, if you don’t have strong values, you have little motivation.. If you have strong values, you have strong motivation.
1. Imagine a strongly motivated experience, something you really liked. See it clearly.
2. Take a breath and look around.
3, Imagine something not exciting you care about
4. Take a breath
5. Compare the differences you feel are elements your brain uses to indicate value to you.
Imagine a valuable task you want to do but you don’t do
Think about why you don’t do it
Think about the end result if you do.
Now use the elements from above to change how you think about the result./ Can also be used in opposite by imagining what you are trying to avoid.
Remember to use and utilize an away from motivation strategy to move towards what you want.
New Behavior Generator
See yourself a short distance away and you are watching yourself from inside a bubble. Watch the other you learn and do the task you want to do. Watch yourself feel god as you do it, adjust when it does not feel right. And once done, merge the two values.
Determine your motivation direction - away or toward
What are others’ directions and use them to improve them
What values do you have and how can they influence you
Phase way from and toward motivation for the best results
Use sub modalities of your thinking to change and increase your motivation.
Learn how to be more positively motivated towards
NLP Notes Part One
Isolates = smallest units of behaviour
What do I need to know in order to make this decesion? What are the major benefits, and how do I quantify them?
Everything you do is the product of a mental habit
My mind is a laboratory
Associated = in the action
Disassociated = separate and watching the action distantly or apart
You can change how you think
“The greatest revolution of our generation is the discovery that human beings, by changing the inner attitudes of their minds, can change the outer aspects of their lives.” William James
Our brains simply do not know how to put things into negative language. Saying “ don’t think” automatically makes us think of it. In order for our brains to not think of something, our brains have to think it.
Instead of saying what you don’t want to do or what you don’t want to think about, think about what you do want to think about.
Make what you want to do and what you think into a positive statement
Increase the mental vividness of what you want to do in order to make it more attractive to you.
Associate into these successful behaviours and mentally rehearse them so they feel natural.
NLP suppositions ( people work perfectly);
- the map is not the territory - our mental map of the world is nt the world and can be changed
- experience has structure - thoughts and memories have a pattern to them - we can change the pattern and change the experience
- if one person can do something, anyone can learn to do it
- mind and body are parts of the same system
- people already have all the resources they need
- you cannot not communicate
- the meaning of your communication is the response you get
- underlying every behaviour is a positive intention
- people are always making the best choices available to them
- if what you are doing isn’t working, do something else, do anything else
For the map is not the territory - as you go through time, the map and the world start to separate.
You can take an old situation, something you feel bad about, and restructure it, change the background, put music to it, put a frame on it, and you can change it by conveying the opposite feeling is conveyed.
Every image, sound, or feeling is a resouce somewhere for something.
Talent is simply a set of resources that have been combined, sequenced, and practiced until tey become automatic skill.
Circle of confidence - imagine a time when you were in the zone and relive it mentally, capture it in a circle and think that circle when the feeling is needed.
Use mentoring - basically modeling on successful examples of what you want to accomplish
How people think about something makes the crucial difference in how they will experience it.
Read up on Dr. Milton H. Erickson, MD - founder of the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis. Master of hypnosis, he could induce a profound trance just by telling stories.
High Performance Breakfast - Men’s journal May 2010
Should be 25% od caloric intake, so about 625 calories
1 cup oats
Fruit ( blueberries)
Top with lowfat yogurt or dried milk
Dash of cinnamon and/ or use almond milk
Add some walnuts ( 14 halves)
½ cup spinach or tomatos
Saute in olive oil
And serve with multigrain toast and almond butter
On the go;
Clifs Bar Clif C
MacDonald’s fruit and yogurt parfait
Starbucks spinach/ feta/ egg white wrap
Smoothies - 8 oz greek yogurt/ 1 cup froze fuit
Rework Notes - 37 Signals
The book is good, but light.
I am a big fan of the other book, Get Real, by 37 signals, and this book is in the same vein, and has some good points, but I liked Get Real more, and actually think it is the better business book.
One thing that bothered me about Rework, is that a company who does so well at clean and simple, managed to fill a book with bad pictures that really add nothing. The actual content is well done, but probably fills a third of the book, the rest is white page or the pictures apparently made in sharpie, their favorite pen.
Could have been a great simple book.
Too bad the book isn't as well thought out and executed as their software.
there is no such thing as the real world, there is no ideal model
planning is guessing, the longer the timeline, the more useless, estimates are always wrong
failure happens, but success teaches you what works
growing for no reason is ridiculous
work smart, but have a life
make a dent in the universe, do something that matters, make stand, believe in it and live it
your products should be what you need
ideas are just ideas, and are not valuable. action is valuable, doing something is valuable
no time means you have no plan
avoid outside money, the costs are too high, you need less than you think, you are making a business, not a start up.
keep it simple and lean
constraints are good, they force creativity
do the stuff you have to do for your product, ignore details, and get it out there, launch quickly and then respond
decisions and actions are progress
focus on what won't change, don't follow fashion
tone is in the fingers, practice, hard work, pays off
sell your byproducts
interruption is the enemy of productivity/ meetings are useless
go for quick wins, make quick tiny decisions
don't be a same as, or copy, make a stand, make sure your product isn't a commodity even when it is (zappos), make it you
make your product what it needs to be, under do, make it simple, robust, and fast
don't outspend your competition, out teach them, don't let everyone define you, you define you, thinks chefs, they all cook with the same ingredients, but a select few can add their personality to make it more. people can read fake and they respond to real.
everyone and every part of a business is marketing, make the business always reflect what you stand for
hire when it hurts, and hire the person, the attitude, not the background, not the resume
decisions are temporary
This is one of those books that start out seeming a little dated, and then just start to ring true. Good book, check it out, worth buying.
Notes on The Magic of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
Belief is the thermostat that regulates what we accomplish in life. (what you believe you can do, determines what you can do.) A person is the product of his or her own thoughts.
What really maters is not how smart you are but how you use what you know.
Stickability is 95% of ability.
Attitude is more important than intelligence.
1. Action cures fear - isolate your fear (why and what)/ then take action
2. Try to only put positive thoughts into memory
3. Be Balanced - put people and situations in perspective
4. Do what you know or what you feel is right
5. Be confident
be a front seater
make eye contact
walk 25% faster
List your 5 best assets and 3 people who have more success than you for each but maybe do not have your strengths. In other words, you is mor thatn you but less talented or intelligent, and then figure out why.
1. conquer self depreciation - don't sell yourself short
2. use big bright cheerful words
3. Stretch your vision ( in the box, out of the box, who said there was a box?)
4. Get the large, macro view of the world
5. Focus on big goals/ Objectives
If you believe it you brain finds ways to make it true
man/ woman belongs whereever they want to go
1. believe it, it can be done. if you believe it, you will find a way.
2. be receptive to new ideas, be experimental, do accept things as they are, but challange them
3. ask daily, how can I do better, be better
4. ask daily, how can I do more - capacity is a state of mind
5. practice asking and listening
6. stretch your mind, push it, get stimulated
(I like that CAPACITY IS A STATE OF MIND)
How you think determines how and who you are. How you act determines how others will react to you.
Practice self promise not self punishment.
(The world is hard enough on you and those around you, so make it easier and look out for yourself and others)
1. look important - it makes you think important
2. think your work is important
3. give yourself a pep talk daily
4. in every situation ask yourself, is this a good use of my time, is this how an important person would act/ think?
1. be environmentally conscious - just as a diet can affect how your body looks, a mind diet, what you put in your mind, affects how your mind works
2. make environment work for you
3. don't let small thinking people hold you back
4. get advice on success from successful people
5. get plenty of psychological sunshine
6. get poison out of your environment, avoid gossip
7. go first class, and think first class in everything
grow a enthusiastic attitude, dig deeper into things, life up everything, broadcast good news
Show other people you think they are important, use their name, show appreciation
Have a service first attitude
1. learn to remember names
2. be a comfortable person to be with
3. be easy going
4. don't be egotistical
5. be interesting to others
6. get the "swarmy" elements of your personality out
7. try to heal every misunderstanding you have
8. like people, genuinely, they can tell
9. never miss a chance to say congratulations
10. give spiritual strength to people
introduce yourself every chance you get
make sure they get your name straight
make sure you can pronounce their name
write down the other persons name, make sure you spell it right
drop a note or call the new person
be pleasant to strangers
Every day thousands of people bury good ideas because they are afraid to act on them. The ghosts of these ideas come back to haunt you.
be a doer/ take action
don't wait until conditions are right, they never will be
ideas have value only when you act on them
use action to cure fear and boost confidence
start your mental engine - dig in - work it out
think in terms of now
get to business fast
seize the initiative - take the ball and run
salvage something from every setback - study them
be your own constructive critic
stop blaming luck
blend persistence with experimentation
there is a good side in every situation - find it
Remember, it is not important where you are or were, but what matters is where you want to be.
get a clear fix ion where you want to go
write a 10 year plan
surrender yourself to your designs, set goals to get more energy
let your major goal be your auto pilot
achieve your goal one step at a time
build 30 day goals, day by day, effort pays off
in vest in yourself
“We all are learning, modifying, or destroying ideas all the time. Rapid destruction of your ideas when the time is right is one of the most valuable qualities you can acquire. You must force yourself to consider arguments on the other side.
— Charles T. Munger”
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