NLP part Five
Knowing what you want is fundamental If it is useful to go through a series of questions to make sure your goals are worth having. Well Formed Goal Conditions - Select a Specific Goal The way you think about your goal makes a big difference - you can think of it in a way that makes it easy to achieve or in a way to make it almost impossible. It is your choice, and in your head. Make sure your goal is what you want and not just what you think you should do, or what others want, it has to be yours. Changing your language, how you say what it is you want, makes a big difference, so change from stating what you don't want to what you do. Make sure your goal is stated in a way that you can get it yourself, no matter what other people do. Your goal must depend on you. not others. Ex. If a goal is I want my boss to stop criticizing me - that requires your boss to change which is not in your control and it leaves you vulnerable and dependent. Instead - what can I do, or experience. that will allow me to remain resourceful, no matter what my boss thinks. How will you know when you have achieved your goal? Make sure your decide how you will know you have met your goal and insure the time line is not long. Better short goals for feedback and encouragement. You want to make sure you think about when you do and when you don't want your goal. It is easier to achieve your goal when you are careful about where, when, and with whom it is appropriate. Make sure your goal fits into the ecology of your life so it does not become one sided. Exercise: Goals you will make the rest of your life. 1. Set the stage 2. See yourself in the future in your chosen role 3. Make your goal well formed · goal is positive - it is what to do · you want to do the goal, not should · you are the one doing it - not someone else · you can do it - it is not impossible · the goal is specific - not general · the goal is ecological - if achieved it is positive 4. Make your image compelling 5. Notice the pathway Exercise: Developing a Plan
Taking Action on Your Goals 1. assign a realistic completion date 2. schedule the steps 3. keep an eye on the mission/ progress 4. do it - persist. NLP notes part four
exercise: Utilizing your favorite hero/ heroine aka role model 1. think of one who excites you 2. see a particular goal - think of a goal they did that they accomplished by living and doing what they did. Make a mental movie. 3. step into the role - put yourself into their place, make it yours, really feel it. 4. question yourself - what are my motives? why did doing this accomplish that goal and why did I choose to do it? how does pursuing this goal make me feel? how does this goal fit into my larger mission? 5. become yourself again. Read biographies of your favorite achievers Roles are important Your mission determines your roles, and your roles determine your goals. " For example, a person may read a lot. However, if that person does not have an identity as a writer, he or she is not likely to learn to write by reading. A person who strongly believes " I am a writer" reads in a very different way from someone who does not share that identity. A person with a writer role notices different things than a nonwriter. A writer reads not only to get the information, a writer reads to learn how to refine the skills of his or her own writing." NLP, Steve Andreas and Chris Faulkner Life roles - 4 primary types; individual work personal or family citizen Ex: artist, athlete, creator, discoverer, friend to self, hero, hunter, leader, learner, magician, meditator, sage, saint, warrior. Your mission will require many different roles. The Black Swan - by Nassion Taleb
quick start notes; Karl Popper - you cannot know with any certainty that a proposition was true; you only know it is not true. Everything that can be tested, must be tested. No amount of observations of white swans can allow the inference that all swans are white, but the observation of a single black swan is sufficient to refute the conclusion. - Hume The key is not having the ideas but having the recipe to deal with your ideas. we don't need moralizing. we need a set of tricks. - Taleb we are more willing to gamble when it comes to losses, but we are risk averse when it comes to our gains. There is courage and heroism in defying human impulse, in taking the purposeful and painful steps to prepare for the unimaginable. NLP notes part three
Developing a grand vision
write down where you want to be (go)/ what you want to be/ who you want to be Finding a specific direction for your grand vision
Align yourself with the Mission · question yourself - do your actions match your vision and direction/ why not? · negotiate with the parts of yourself that object - find a way to meet it · remember your time here is finite, do not live a life less than you want · find reasons to continue · persist Goals we earn a living by the money we make, but we make a life by the services we provide mission oriented goals are worth achieving and lead to meaningful action, and those action lead to a meaningful life Discovering your mission a mission is a sense of purpose that lures you into your future. It unifies your beliefs, actions, and your sense of who you are. Exercise Go back in time to when you were small and everyone was big, and you are learning all the time. Words every day, new things, new wiring, remember you have 15 billion brain cells and you can hear 1600 frequencies, your eyes can see a single photon - these abilities can be applied to learn in many ways. Now picture yourself as a system of functional capabilities unrivaled in the known universe. You are a learning machine Finding your Passion
John Wooden: Be true to yourself make everyday a masterpiece help others drink deeply from books make friendship an art build a shelter against a rainy day pray for guidance Values/ Principles Think of some of your interests determine your values/ principles list the values - they must be your deepest values what is the one deepest value 3 ways to find values when someone violates them and you are upset something makes you happy deep inner thought/ meditation Anthony Bourdain - notes from kitchen confidential
bare basic kitchen tools Chef knife - he uses a global, Henkel's are not worth the effort, and this is the only knife you really need. optional knives; flexible boning knife paring knife off set serrated knife other tools; plastic squeeze bottle for sauces mandolin slicer for different cuts plastic tube ( cut pvc pipe)/ or steel ring to make your food stack buy dishes from restaurants going out of business; pots and pan; thick bottom sauce pan, thick bottom sauté pan, stock pot, cast iron skillet. non stick sauté pan for omelets ( don't wash these, just wipe, and use no steel objects on them) pans should be Heavy Weight - should be able to do real damage to a skull if used as a weapon. Ingredients; shallots garlic ( roasted is awesome) butter ( on everything) parsley (?) stock - the backbone - make your own; roast bones and vegetables and then throw in a stock pot with water and reduce demi-glace chervil, basil tips, chive sticks, mint tips There is no Final Resting Place of the Mind. - Anthony Bourdain |
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