How to Break Free and Find the New You

Read over the list of rules below. Try a few of them on for size. Add to the list your own personal rules. Write these rules on note cards and put them where you can see them every day. 


1 If it frightens you, do it. 
2 Don't settle. Every time you settle, you get exactly what you settled for. 
3 Put yourself first. 
4 No matter what happens, you will handle it. 
5 Whatever you do, do it 100%.
6 If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got. 
7 You are the only person on this planet responsible for your needs, wants, and happiness. 
8 Ask for what you want. 
9 If what you are doing isn't working, try something different. 
10 Be clear and direct. 
11 Learn to say "no."
12 Don't make excuses. 
13 If you are an adult, you are old enough to make your own rules. 
14 Let people help you. 
15 Be honest with yourself. 
16 Do not let anyone treat you badly. No one. Ever. 
17 Remove yourself from a bad situation instead of waiting for the situation to change. 
18 Don't tolerate the intolerable — ever. 
19 Stop blaming. Victims never succeed.
20 Live with integrity. Decide what feels right to you, then do it. 
21 Accept the consequences of your actions. 
22 Be good to yourself. 
23 Think "abundance." 
24 Face difficult situations and conflict head on. 
25 Don't do anything in secret. 
26 Do it now. 
27 Be willing to let go of what you have so you can get what you want.
28 Have fun. If you are not having fun, something is wrong. 
29 Give yourself room to fail. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences.
 30 Control is an illusion. Let go; let life happen. It is time to start getting what you want. 


Breaking free from the Nice Guy Syndrome will allow you to discover your true passion and potential. By taking responsibility for creating the kind of life you really want, you can become all that you were meant to be.


No More Mr Nice Guy