Have I always been this way? Nah, it's all learned behavior. All learned. Learned and trained. I added a note to my daily checklist for a while, "Reach out to someone" or something like that. So I'd try to send one nice or thankful email per day, or offer to help someone, or ask quickly what their favorite book is.
Baby steps. Now I'm getting fairly a lot of email and comments and people reaching out to me on different sites, and that's really cool.
Make connecting with people part of your entertainment time. Don't make it work time. Do it to relax, to cool off, enjoy it. Think of it as a nice privilege. I really enjoy it.
Stuff like this happens slowly. Incremental progress. Work towards it.
Start by sending out short (the shorter the better) emails to people who you see saying or doing something cool. Even if they don't write back, I guarantee they appreciate it.
Well, the way I see it, there are exactly three basic ways -
1.) Get introductions
2.) Reach out to people
3.) Do something prominent and solicit people to reach out to you
Ikigai by Sebastian Marshall