NLP notes part 2
There are 2 types of motivation, away from problems and towards things or goals we want.
People have a tendency to only follow one, but that does not work well.
Away from problems has 3 things to watch;
You move away from something because there is discomfort but the further from it you get , the less motivation you keep, so you go back and forth, hot and cold, it is inconsistent.
Because you are going away from something you often do not pay attention to where you are going or how you will end up. Out of the frying pan into the fire.
Away from people often experience a lot of worry and stress to make a move, usually a lot more than needed or is healthy.
People are always trying to make the best choices available to them and behind every behavior is a positive intention.
Check people and watch them, do they seek goals or are they avoiding problems?
Always end comments positive - start with what to avoid, and end with the goal.;
First state what you don’t want, then state what you do want.
Values matter. What we value determines what life means to us, what actions we will take, what we will move toward or away from.
When people become disconnected from their values their motivation.
What are my goals?
What is important to me?
What is important about this goal?
What do I value or treasure about this goal?
What meaning does this goal have for me?
Values measure the meaning life holds for us.
Values influence motivation, if you don’t have strong values, you have little motivation.. If you have strong values, you have strong motivation.
1. Imagine a strongly motivated experience, something you really liked. See it clearly.
2. Take a breath and look around.
3, Imagine something not exciting you care about
4. Take a breath
5. Compare the differences you feel are elements your brain uses to indicate value to you.
Imagine a valuable task you want to do but you don’t do
Think about why you don’t do it
Think about the end result if you do.
Now use the elements from above to change how you think about the result./ Can also be used in opposite by imagining what you are trying to avoid.
Remember to use and utilize an away from motivation strategy to move towards what you want.
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See yourself a short distance away and you are watching yourself from inside a bubble. Watch the other you learn and do the task you want to do. Watch yourself feel god as you do it, adjust when it does not feel right. And once done, merge the two values.
Determine your motivation direction - away or toward
What are others’ directions and use them to improve them
What values do you have and how can they influence you
Phase way from and toward motivation for the best results
Use sub modalities of your thinking to change and increase your motivation.
Learn how to be more positively motivated towards
“We all are learning, modifying, or destroying ideas all the time. Rapid destruction of your ideas when the time is right is one of the most valuable qualities you can acquire. You must force yourself to consider arguments on the other side.
— Charles T. Munger”
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