NLP part Five
Knowing what you want is fundamental
If it is useful to go through a series of questions to make sure your goals are worth having.
Well Formed Goal Conditions - Select a Specific Goal
The way you think about your goal makes a big difference - you can think of it in a way that makes it easy to achieve or in a way to make it almost impossible. It is your choice, and in your head.
Make sure your goal is what you want and not just what you think you should do, or what others want, it has to be yours.
Changing your language, how you say what it is you want, makes a big difference, so change from stating what you don't want to what you do.
Make sure your goal is stated in a way that you can get it yourself, no matter what other people do. Your goal must depend on you. not others.
Ex. If a goal is I want my boss to stop criticizing me - that requires your boss to change which is not in your control and it leaves you vulnerable and dependent. Instead - what can I do, or experience. that will allow me to remain resourceful, no matter what my boss thinks.
How will you know when you have achieved your goal?
Make sure your decide how you will know you have met your goal and insure the time line is not long. Better short goals for feedback and encouragement.
You want to make sure you think about when you do and when you don't want your goal. It is easier to achieve your goal when you are careful about where, when, and with whom it is appropriate.
Make sure your goal fits into the ecology of your life so it does not become one sided.
Goals you will make the rest of your life.
1. Set the stage
2. See yourself in the future in your chosen role
3. Make your goal well formed
· goal is positive - it is what to do
· you want to do the goal, not should
· you are the one doing it - not someone else
· you can do it - it is not impossible
· the goal is specific - not general
· the goal is ecological - if achieved it is positive
4. Make your image compelling
5. Notice the pathway
Developing a Plan
Taking Action on Your Goals
1. assign a realistic completion date
2. schedule the steps
3. keep an eye on the mission/ progress
4. do it - persist.
“We all are learning, modifying, or destroying ideas all the time. Rapid destruction of your ideas when the time is right is one of the most valuable qualities you can acquire. You must force yourself to consider arguments on the other side.
— Charles T. Munger”
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