We are raised, all of us, being asked or being told what it is that we will do once we are older. What will we be. Korean's have a ceremony where a one year old child has to pick from a collection of objects, each chosen by the parent to represent a possible future for the child. Everyone wants to predict the future, everyone wants to know it, to see it, but no one wants to create it.
We are convinced that there is some ultimate goal for each of us, that we each have some special skill that will set us apart if we could just find that one niche or career where we will shine. Everything would be good, things would just click right into place. We would lead happy purposeful lives fulfilling our destiny.
None of that is true , none of it is real, and it is harmful to believe and harmful to follow.
There is no ideal you.
There is no ultimate goal or plan for you, no one has a master design for you. You will never find that point of being perfect, and never have to change.
And that is good.
To postpone your life, put it on hold, while you figure it all out, while you find your real calling is a waste of your precious life and time. You can always find a way to make money, or find a new job, get more things, hire more people, but no one can buy themselves extra time. Your time is what it is. It is finite for all of us.
So the idea is not to be the perfect you, or to find the perfect goal, the plan is to make the perfect path.
You need to consciously design how you live, choose what you do, right this minute, going right into the next minute, and find a way that is perfect for the present you and your life at this minute in time.
Do things today that make your time and life matter today.
Every day we live our life, our way, is a perfect day.
Don't worry about the future you, that will be handled by respecting the present moment in time.
There is no final you, ever.
It is your calling to make your life yours, that gives it meaning, that makes you interested.
There is no perfect job, just the perfect moment.