Understanding that we all live in and operate from a personal model of reality is the key to making our lives better serve us.

When you truly know what you want, and that what you want is worth having, you’ll find all your internal resources aligning.

The interesting thing about the mind is that if you take a brain and cut it open, you can’t find the mind. You can’t find a poem or the taste of chocolate or the feeling of a first kiss or the music from the prom dance. All you find is a bunch of nerve tissue. The nerve tissue in your brain acts as a substrate. It’s almost like your computer. It acts like your hard drive or your motherboard, and basically it’s designed to store various bits of data and to assemble, reassemble, and rearrange them and call them up whenever you want.


When people do things that are not good for them—and it doesn’t matter whether it’s biting their fingernails or committing serial murders—they are doing what they are doing because some part of them thinks it’s essential. A part of them believes that it’s necessary for survival, for their well-being. While some behaviors may not be sane, healthy, or anything most people would condone, it’s important to understand that in that individual’s worldview, in their mind, that behavior is absolutely necessary.

The two things I’d like you to hold in mind are that there is no such thing as an inner enemy and that behind every behavior is a positive intention.

Your mind—as well as everybody else’s mind—is operating the best way it currently knows how. It may be wrong and it may need an adjustment, simply because most brains decide how to operate when people are four or five years old.

Understanding that we all live in and operate from a personal model of reality is the key to making our lives better serve us.


NLP: The Essential Guide to Neuro-Linguistic Programming