First, live your life as an adventure story. You are both a writer and a main character of the book describing the story of your life, and if the plot is interesting you will be excited to wake up every morning and take part in adventures.
Secondly, live your life as a competition. Raise your standards and aim for continual progress in important areas of your life. No matter in which area of life you want to become better, today you compete with yesterday’s you and tomorrow you will compete with today’s you.
Finally, live your life as an exploration. Explore the world by doing what you have never done before, by visiting places you have never been to before, by meeting people you haven’t known before. The biggest breakthroughs in life happen when you expand your comfort zone and explore the world beyond the border of what you are familiar with. Often people are afraid of going outside of their comfort zone, however in 99% of cases what they fear isn’t dangerous at all. Ask yourself: “What do I fear to do, but will bring me joy if I do it?” Live your life as an exploration, expand your comfort zone, experiment and you will have an exciting life.
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself. – George Bernard Shaw
The only thing you can control is your actions. No matter how bad the circumstances are it is always possible to get what you want; however, to get it you need to believe in the statement: “I am 100% responsible for everything that happens in my life. My actions, not the circumstances, create my future.”
The biggest reason why people fail is not their lack of abilities but their lack of belief in their abilities. No matter what you believe in, your brain will look for confirmations that you are right and will eventually find them. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”
The magical invocation that successful people use to achieve their goals is “I can.” On the way to your goal tell yourself “I can” every day, and if anybody ever says “You can’t” say “I can.” You can achieve literally whatever you want if you have a big enough desire and belief that you can.
There is a significant difference between, “I wish to achieve my goal” and “I am committed to achieve my goal.” If you wish to achieve your goal it means, “I will accept it if it falls into my lap.” You will do what is easy and convenient on the way to the goal, but once faced with difficulties you will find excuses and give up.
However, if you decide to be committed, it means, “I will achieve my goal no matter what. Failure is not an option.” Commitment is when you have burned the ships and there is no room for a backup in your mind.
Having a plan B is dangerous, because if you have it you won’t do 100% of what you can to implement your plan A.
The secret of incredible commitment is simple: “Determine which dream could have the biggest positive impact on your happiness. Make a promise to yourself to fulfill this dream no matter how difficult it is.”
100 dreams exercise
Write down all your dreams
Your task is to write down a minimum of 100 desires that you would ask a genie to fulfill if you had a magic lamp. This could be literally anything: small desires, big desires, physical possessions, relationships, achievements or experiences. Imagine what your perfect life would look like and think about which desires would bring you from where you are to the life in your imagination.
Spend at least 1 hour thinking about what you would want if there were no limitations and you could get and achieve anything. Don’t worry about making this list perfect, as you will be able to change or update it in the future. The most important thing in this exercise is the quantity of desires, which should be not less than 100.
You will probably write the first 20 desires really quickly because they are at the top of your mind. Once you exhaust desires you have thought about before, your subconscious will begin really thinking. Desires that are between numbers 60 and 100 are usually the most original desires that you haven’t considered before.
According to research done by Dominican University, people who just think about their goals achieve them with 43% probability. People who not only think about their goals but also write down their goals achieve them with 61% probability. Finally, people who write down their goals, create action plans and check progress weekly increase their chances for success to 76%. Isn’t that impressive that just by thinking about what you want you can achieve your goal with 43% probability and writing down your goal increases this probability by another 20%?
The Achievement Factory: How to Fulfill Your Dreams and Make Life an Adventure